Islamic Fiqh > Marriage and family > Mahr (dowry): status, mention and limits > A secret mahr and a publicly declared mahr
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The jurists differed over the case of spouses agreeing on a mahr in secret and then publicly declaring another, larger or smaller: which of the two binds the husband?
The Malikis, the Shafi'is according to one view and the Hanbalis according to one view hold the secret mahr binding, smaller or greater. The Malikis specify: if the spouses agree secretly on a mahr and publicly declare another differing in amount, description or kind, the secret mahr is the one relied upon; if they dispute and the wife takes an oath, if the husband swears, the secret mahr applies; if he backs out after her oath, the public mahr applies. The oath has no place if the witnesses of the secret testify that the public mahr has no basis ("at-Taj wal-Iklil" (2/592), "Sharh Mukhtasar Khalil" (3/273), "al-Mughni" (7/201-202), "I'lam al-Muwaqqi'in" (3/88-91)). It is recommended that the wife fulfill her promise to take only the secret mahr, so as to avoid any deception, based on the hadith:
Believers are bound by their conditions.Hadith cited by the jurists as proof
The jurists differed: the husband gives his wife gold, a necklace or other gifts; do these count toward the mahr? Most of the scholars answer no.
The scholars agree that the wife is not obliged to furnish her household if her husband has not given her her mahr. They differed over the case where he has: must she buy the wedding trousseau with it, or does the mahr remain exclusively her property?
Most of the people of knowledge (the Hanafis, the Shafi'is, the Hanbalis, the Zahiris, and Ibn Wahb among the Malikis) hold: the woman is not obliged to furnish herself with her mahr; it belongs to her alone and she disposes of it freely, with no obligation to buy or prepare the marital home; no text of Islamic law imposes this upon her or upon her guardian, apart from voluntary generosity, as is the current custom in many Muslim lands, in Egypt for example, where the bride's father furnishes half of the household's furnishings: that is generosity on his part, not an obligation. The proof that the mahr is the woman's property:
"And give the women their mahr graciously"
Surah An-Nisa, 4
The verse attributes the mahr to the woman, it being the price of her intimacy and her own property; and "but if they willingly give up to you a part of their mahr, then consume it freely and wholesomely" confirms her ownership, Allah permitting them to take of it only with the consent of their souls ("Bada'i as-Sana'i" (2/290), "Asna al-Matalib" (3/120), "Kashshaf al-Qina" (5/156)).
Ibn Hazm in "al-Muhalla" defends this position: the woman may not be compelled to furnish herself, neither with her mahr nor with the rest of her wealth; the whole mahr is hers, without the husband's permission or objection, and this is the view of Abu Hanifa, ash-Shafi'i and Abu Sulayman. He criticizes at length Malik's position, which obliges a wife receiving dinars or dirhams to buy with all of it a trousseau (garments, bedding, jewelry) for her husband, forbidding her to pay her debts from it beyond three dinars; Ibn Hazm sees in it great contradiction and the absence of any proof from the Quran, the Sunnah, analogy or reason. As proof he cites Fatima's marriage: Ali sold his coat of mail for 480 (four hundred and eighty) dirhams, brought them to the Prophet, who took a handful of it for perfume and ordered the wedding to be prepared, whereupon were prepared a striped bed, a leather pillow stuffed with palm fiber, and the filling of the house like a heap, which is not worth 480 dirhams (reported by Ibn Hibban in his "Sahih", 6944). He also cites Ali's ruling that a father who substituted another daughter for the one promised must equip the one he actually married with a mahr equivalent to what he received for her sister, and that the husband must not touch her until the other's waiting period ends; and the hadith:
A woman is married for four things: her lineage, her wealth, her beauty and her religion; choose the one with religion, may your hands be covered with dust.Reported by Bukhari and Mouslim
pointing out that the Prophet neither commanded nor encouraged marrying for wealth in it, but merely reported people's practice while disapproving of it. He cites likewise:
Do not marry women for their beauty, for their beauty may lead them to rebellion; do not marry women for their wealth, for their wealth may make them tyrannical; marry them for their religion, and a black slave girl of rough features with religion is better.Reported from Abdallah ibn Amr (may Allah be pleased with him), cited by Ibn Hazm
The Malikis, by contrast: if the wife receives her mahr before her husband consummates the marriage, he may compel her to furnish the household with it, within the customary standard for the trousseau of a woman like her marrying a man like him, townswoman or Bedouin, even if the custom is buying a slave girl or a house. If the mahr is something measured, weighed, an animal, merchandise or real estate, there is no obligation to sell it for furnishing; the obligation applies only to cash received (gold, silver, money). If the husband demands what has fallen due of her mahr so that she furnish, and she refuses to take it to escape the obligation, it is judged, in the widespread view, that she receive it and furnish. If the husband stipulates equipment greater than what she received or custom requires it, he is bound by what he stipulated. The wife does not spend from the mahr on herself nor pay her debts from it, unless she is needy, or for a small debt such as one dinar out of a large mahr. If he divorces her before consummation while she is in hardship, half of what she spent follows her debt. If the husband stipulates furnishing exceeding the mahr, or custom so requires, and the wife then dies before consummation, the heirs claim their share of the mahr and the husband asks them to produce the stipulated or customary trousseau to assess his inheritance share: they are not bound to that, what the husband added for the trousseau is deducted from the mahr, and he chooses between being satisfied with a trousseau equal to the mahr or divorcing with nothing upon him, so long as the marriage was not consummated; if the marriage was completed by consummation, the father is compelled, from her wealth, to the customary furnishing. Al-Qadi Abd al-Wahhab says that if the wife bought the trousseau with the mahr and was then divorced before consummation, the husband recovers half of what she bought, without being repaid in kind; Abu Hanifa and ash-Shafi'i require restitution of half in kind. The Maliki proof is custom ("Command what is customary": Surah Al-A'raf, 199), the Prophet having taken Fatima's mahr and spent it on her trousseau of perfume, bedding and the like, and Ali's ruling, which bound the father to the furnishing and told the divorced husband demanding half: "You wasted your wealth," without anyone contradicting him ("al-Ishraf ala Nakt Masail al-Khilaf" (3/367-368), no. 1202). Finally the husband may enjoy the trousseau (shawra) with his wife, and forbid her to sell or gift it, his enjoyment of it being his right; if she received nothing and furnished from her own wealth, he can only place her under interdiction if she gives away more than a third; the husband is not bound to compensate the trousseau, but must buy her the indispensable equipment ("Sharh Mukhtasar Khalil" (4/187), "Sharh az-Zurqani" (4/442), "Tahrir al-Mukhtasar" (3/409)).
The scholars agree that the rule is that the mahr be known; they differed over its validity if unknown. The Shafi'is and the Hanbalis in the madhhab require the mahr to be known and such that sale of it would be valid: it is the compensation in an exchange contract and cannot be unknown, like the price of sale or hire. Marrying for an unspecified house, an ambiguous mount, an unspecified slave ("one of my slaves"), the yield of a tree, what his slave earns, the contents of his house, what either spouse or what Zayd will judge, something without benefit (insects), impossible to deliver (a bird in the sky, a fish in the water), or not capable of ownership (a walnut shell, a grain of wheat): the mahr is invalid for gharar or lack of appropriability, and the dower of the like is due ("Rawdat at-Talibin" (5/109-110), "al-Mughni" (7/169-170), "Mughni al-Muhtaj" (4/362)).
The Hanafis, the Malikis and some Hanbalis validate the unknown mahr and oblige the middle (al-wast), with details. The Hanafis require that the uncertainty not exceed that of the dower of the like: marrying for "an animal", "a mount", "a garment" or "a house" unspecified invalidates the specification, uncertainty of genus being excessive, and the full dower of the like is due; but designating a slave, a slave girl, a horse, a camel, a donkey or a garment of Marw or Herat (known genus and species, unknown description and quantity) validates the specification and she receives the middle, the husband having the choice of delivering the middle or its value. Marriage is indeed an exchange of property for what is not property, and an animal of known genus and species may be fixed as a debt in the liability, as in the hadith: "For a believing soul: one hundred she-camels"; the obligation of the middle is justice, as it takes both sides into account, the husband being harmed by obliging the good and the wife by obliging the bad, in keeping with the meaning of the hadith: "The best of affairs is their middle".
Designating something measured or weighed without description validates the mahr: the husband delivers the middle or its value, per al-Karkhi in his "Jami'". Designating "this slave, or a thousand, or two thousand" corrupts the specification according to Abu Hanifa, and the dower of the like is judged: if it resembles the lower of the two amounts or is less, she receives the lower, unless the husband consents to the higher; if it resembles the higher, she receives the higher, unless the wife consents to the lower; if it lies between, she receives the dower of the like. A marriage with corrupt conditions ("a thousand if I have no wife, two thousand otherwise"; "a thousand if I do not move her from her town, two thousand otherwise"; "a thousand if she is a freedwoman, two thousand if she is Arab") remains valid, for perpetual marriage without term is not annulled by corrupt conditions. As for the mahr: the first condition (a thousand without prior wife) is valid by consensus; if fulfilled she receives what was designated under it; otherwise the dower of the like, with no deduction from the original nor addition beyond the higher, says Abu Hanifa; Abu Yusuf and Muhammad validate both conditions; Zufar corrupts them, like the famous hire question: "if you sew it today, one dirham; tomorrow, half a dirham" ("Bada'i as-Sana'i" (2/282-285), "al-Hidaya" (1/208-209)).
The Malikis validate marriage for the trousseau ("I marry her and make her trousseau her mahr"), for a bounded number of she-camels, sheep or slaves, or for the dower of the like: she receives the middle of each, and the middle of the trousseau according to her condition, townswoman or Bedouin; all of it is due immediately. The "Mudawwana": whoever marries for a slave that is not specified, without description or term, the marriage is valid, a middle slave is due, and he may pay her its value only with her consent ("at-Taj wal-Iklil" (2/574-575), "Sharh Mukhtasar Khalil" (3/255-256)).
Ibn Qudama among the Hanbalis: the mahr is not valid unless known and such that sale of it would be valid, the choice of Abu Bakr and the madhhab of ash-Shafi'i. Al-Qadi (Abu Ya'la) validates the unknown whose uncertainty does not exceed that of the dower of the like: Ja'far ibn Muhammad transmitted from Ahmad the case of a man married for one thousand dirhams and a slave, who divorced before consummation: the slave is valued at the middle according to the service rendered by the servant of a woman like her; likewise a horse, a mule, an animal of known genus, a garment of Marw or Herat, a bushel of wheat or ten ratls of oil. If the uncertainty exceeds that of the mahr ("a garment", "a mount", "what so-and-so will judge", "wheat", "barley", "oil", "what he earned in the year"), the mahr is invalid, the middle being unknowable and delivery impossible. The proof of the validity of the first case is the hadith:
The bonds of marriage are that upon which the families agree.Hadith cited by Ibn Qudama in "al-Mughni"
Malik validates the unknown, which adds nothing to the mere omission of mention; Abu al-Khattab validates "a slave of my slaves", "a shirt of my shirts", "a turban of my turbans": Ahmad said, in Muhanna's narration, concerning one who marries for a slave of his slaves, that it is valid and that if they are ten, she is given the one in the middle, and if they dispute, lots are drawn, the uncertainty being slight and the specification possible by drawing lots, unlike the absolute slave whose uncertainty is great ("al-Mughni" (7/168-169), "al-Insaf" (8/237)).
The jurists agree that the marriage stands if the mahr is invalid for uncertainty, non-existence or inability to deliver; Ibn Qudama knows of no disagreement on it ("al-Mughni" (7/170)). They differed over a mahr that is unlawful (wine, pork, or what cannot be a mahr): is the contract dissolved by the corruption of the mahr, or valid with the dower of the like? The disagreement turns on whether marriage follows in this the ruling of sale: whoever admits it annuls the marriage as sale is annulled by a corrupt price; whoever denies it holds that the validity of the mahr is not a condition of the contract's validity, the mention of the mahr not being a condition of the contract's validity ("Bidayat al-Mujtahid" (2/21)).
There is no marriage without a discerning guardian and two just witnesses.Sound report halted at Ibn Abbas, reported by al-Bayhaqi (13428) and al-Baghawi in "Sharh as-Sunna" (2264)
The report negates marriage without guardian and witnesses and affirms it with them; yet this marriage has a guardian and two witnesses, with no distinction between valid and corrupt mahr. Moreover, the corruption of the mahr produces only its falling away, and its falling away only the absence of mention, which does not annul the marriage; marriage with a corrupt mahr is therefore like marriage without mention. In this case, if he consummates or dies, she receives the full dower of the like according to the majority of scholars, for intimacy was lost through the contract and its value is the dower of the like, like one who buys a slave for a garment that perishes in the buyer's hands: the seller recovers the slave's value when restitution in kind becomes impossible. If he divorces her before consummation, she likewise receives half the dower of the like according to the Shafi'is and the Hanbalis in the madhhab, and the mut'a according to the Hanafis; Ibn Qudama reports that the partisans of opinion (ashab ar-ra'y) justify the mut'a by the fact that had no mahr been designated she would have received the mut'a, and a corrupt designation is like no designation. Al-Qadi reports in "al-Jami'" that there is no difference between one who designated no mahr and one who designated something unlawful like wine or unknown like a garment; two narrations are given there: the mut'a upon divorce before consummation, or half the dower of the like; al-Khiraqi distinguishes: corrupt designation, half the dower of the like; the woman given discretion (mufawwada), the mut'a, which is the madhhab of ash-Shafi'i, the woman without compensation having recovered her intimacy intact, while obliging half the mahr would either combine two things or abolish the textual mut'a, both being corrupt ("al-Mughni" (7/170-171), "Bada'i as-Sana'i" (2/277), "al-Hawi al-Kabir" (9/394-396)).
The scholars have a detailed discussion on paying the mahr in advance and deferring it, all agreeing on the validity of paying it in advance, deferring it to a known term, or combining the two (part in advance, part deferred); they discussed the case of the spouses' silence: should the mahr be judged due, deferred, or referred to custom?
Ibn Qudama sums up: the mahr may be paid in advance, deferred, or partly advanced and partly deferred, for it is the compensation in an exchange like the price; absolute mention implies immediate due date, as with the price; deferral to a term fixes it at that term; as for deferral without term, al-Qadi says the mahr is valid and its term is separation, Ahmad having said that the deferred part falls due only by death or separation, as did an-Nakha'i and ash-Sha'bi, while al-Hasan and Hammad said otherwise.